The Season of Discovery (Age 0-10)
This is the time we learn primarily from our parents and guardians. It’s a time we are still under tutelage and there is almost nothing we can do about that. It is the responsibility of our parents to discover our gifts, abilities and talents and to help us channel these gifting in the most productive way. But the most disheartening thing here is that most parent are too busy juggling from home to work just to make a leaving that they ignore the development of this abilities in their children at the early stage. Another thing is that most of the parents are not even aware of what they themselves are created to do, they’ve never discovered themselves; talk-less of what the child is created for.
So for parent’s this is the time you need to look at your children proactively and begin to ask yourself questions. What is this child great at, what is his/her natural inclination, what is this child wired and fired for? What is his/her interest? Does she love singing, does he love drawing? Does she love dancing in front on the TV when listening to music? It is the time as parents to notice your children’s special abilities.
Tiger Wood’s father noticed what he was wired for at the age of 6 months. His father bought him a ball, he will throw ball to the boy; he won’t pick it, he won’t kick it, he will just look for a stick and he will whack it. He would watch his father, Earl, hit golf balls into a net and would try imitating his swing.
All this things happen not once, not twice but regularly. Tiger Wood’s father recognised that there must be something about this boy with ball and stick.
The father, himself a golfer discovered his child’s interest in golf. Tiger Woods appeared on television practicing his swing at the age of two and by the time he was three, he had already shot a 48 on a nine-hole course. When he was just five, the golf world began to take notice of Tiger Woods and he was featured on the cover of Golf Digest.
What about Serena Williams and her sister Venus; their father—a former sharecropper from Louisiana determined to see his two youngest girls succeed—used what he’d gleaned from tennis books and videos to instruct Serena and Venus on how to play the game. At the age of 3, practicing on a court not far from the family’s new Compton, California, home, Serena withstood the rigors of daily two-hour practices from her father. The fact that the family had relocated to Compton was no accident. With its high rate of gang activity, Richard Williams wanted to expose his daughters to the ugly possibilities of life “if they did not work hard and get an education.” In this setting, on courts that were riddled with potholes and sometimes missing nets, Serena and Venus cut their teeth on the game of tennis and the requirements for persevering in a tough climate.
By 1991, Serena was 46-3 on the junior United States Tennis Association tour, and ranked first in the 10-and-under division. Sensing his girls needed better instruction to become successful professionals, he moved his family again—this time to Florida. There, Richard let go of some of his coaching responsibilities, but not the management of Serena’s and Venus’s career. Wary of his daughters burning out too quickly, he scaled back their junior tournament schedule.
In 1995, Serena turned pro. Two years later, she was already No. 99 in the world rankings—up from 304 just 12 months before. A year later, she graduated high school, and almost immediately inked a $12 million shoe deal with Puma. In 1999, she beat out her sister in their race to the family’s first Grand Slam win, when she captured the U.S. Open title.
So these examples show us that it is the responsibility of parents to channel the strengths, abilities and talents of their children towards success.
Parents must understand that all children need to feel that they can do at least one thing very well. Many times, though, a child’s special talent is overlooked because it’s not an area that is recognized at school or elsewhere. It is the duty of the parents to unveil this special ability in their children at the early stage.
In the book Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell stated that “For any child to be successful it is very important that such child is raised in the atmosphere of concerted cultivation i.e where the parents are fully involved in their child’s welfare and wellbeing”
Parents can discover their children’s special talents by providing varied experiences and opportunities. Then they can help their children by working with them at home. The timely discover of this gifts, abilities and talents and the rightly channel of this gifting will make success out of any child.